Thanks for the edit and the other edit. Note: anyone coming across this page should know that some items have been edited and deleted, so it might not make too much sense anymore. Note, bbootz - the initial post was a little weird, but I do feel a lot better having had this conversation with you. I appreciate the other comments as well. Notice I deleted my stupid suggestion to read something. I also love the idea of sudden sofa humping. There's lots of interesting points in the link you sent, including this: There's no funeral - just a wake tomorrow. I'll be going and I'll be keeping the article you sent in mind. thxThere is no shortcut to mourning, the shortcut leads to madness. When you subvert the system and offer a mourner a shortcut, you are leading them to madness.