I'm not getting defensive. I'm saying that what makes a good person is more than just the choices they make and I never said that people aren't allowed to be flawed or make bad choices. In fact, just the opposite. By saying that all that a person requires to be good is the desire to be good, they're given all the space in the world to be flawed and make mistakes because their choices and actions and mistakes and flaws haven't even been factored into the equation, yet. Eventually, their actions have to reflect their desires, but like I said, the desire is the catalyst.

Philosophically, we're on similar pages but not. Being good and loving isn't about active or passive choices, because those are conditions of living we all go through whether we want to be good or not. The same is true of feelings of frustration and of attempting things and brushing up with failure. But that's part of the point. The frustrations and failures? We need those in our lives. They keep us humble, they make us cautious. More importantly though, they make us forgiving, so that we can first learn to forgive ourselves for the mistakes we make and learn to try to right our wrongs, and in doing so we learn how to forgive others and help them express contrition and grow as individuals. And thus, we further shape the world in a mindset that encourages people to be good, because instead of making people feel like they're condemned to their failures and flaws, we give them the opportunity to try again.