- “Watch your liquor, ladies. Don’t drink so much, girls,” they’re simultaneously telling boys that they’re exempt from the same warnings. Boys don’t have to watch how much they drink. They don’t have to take precautions. They don’t have to not rape. They can drink—and rape—because the girls have already been warned.The girls know better. They know what they’re getting themselves into.
Looking at what I wrote it's a pile of shit. I took a few pain meds to battle the pain from a strep infection and I'm feeling a little woozy. It is at least decent description of what bartenders have to do to try and prevent sexual assault. I stop a few rapes a year at my job. It is my professional responsibility to not let people get insensibly drunk it does occasionally happen. Often a secondary intoxicant is the gateway insensibly drunk, two drinks can look a lot like ten if you have been playing around in the medicine cabinet. The ones on meds are the hardest to deal with, they seem fine after one drink and they can barely stand after two. Often a person who ends up insensibly drunk doesn't come to the bar but has someone else serving buying them drinks (we have no table service so if it's very busy fuck if we know what's going on our large patio). I'd say that about 90% of people who are too drunk to have free will (the ability to know who they are with, where they are going, and what is really happening to them) make it to the bar at some point before they get out the door. It's my job to figure out if ladies that smashed are accompanied by someone they can trust before they get out the door and to separate them from predators if I feel they are in danger. I did say ladies, not because I am unaware that men can be raped but I've never had to save a man from a male predator. I know that there have been men in danger of being taken home by someone with bad intentions at my bar before but I didn't have to handle it. We have a number of fantastic groups of gay regulars at my bar and they seem to always act as a community to stop things like that from happening. First thing is did they come in with this person they are leaving with or were they talking with that person before they were trashed. If they knew the person before they were shit faced, how did they relate to each other before booze, how are they acting to each other now. This shit is dicey, you do your best to figure out who people are to each other and if they are decent human beings or vile bastards. usually someone is going to the bathroom before these people start to leave, I use that time to do some hard questioning of what ever party I am left talking with. If you can't figure out if they knew that person before they came in it's red fucking flag time. You can ask a wasted girl if she knows the guy that's holding her up and if she knew him before tonight and she will sometimes say yes even when it isn't true. Because they are trying to leave they have usually cashed out with a credit card so you have at least some parties names. I ask both parties what the other persons name is, if they fail this test I tell the guy to get the fuck out. If they get by the name test and the girl has strongly stated her desire to leave with this guy (yeshh, I....wannnnttts tooo go wish heemm, it's gooodd...) I've done things like take the guys picture and tell him that if he is the white knight he is pretending to be than he has nothing to worry about he will be happy that I've taken the time to try and keep this young lady safe. If a guy just seems like a totally scummy piece of shit and is trying to get a smashed lady out the front door I just kick him out when the lady goes to the bathroom. There are always a selection of men who come to the bar that are known creepers. Doesn't make them a rapist but I'm not letting a girl go home with a known creeper if I haven't seen them together before. The "I can't believe that you did that bro, I had that shit in the bag, I thought you were my friend, fuck you man you aren't cool,) shtick that I've received after preventing a terrible thing from happening is truly sickening. I've seen women who's habits and tastes are well known to me decide to get smashed and end up being led out the door by a man or men they would never even give the time of day to if they were sober. I've called the cops to get women put in the drunk tank rather than leave with a dude I don't trust. Several time under strong questioning I've seen a guy who professed to be the boyfriend of or the friend of a smashed women leave when the questioning started to go the wrong way. I've seen them run when asked if they are trying to rape a women. I'm sure that women who were too smashed to consent to anything have slipped by me and been raped. That sucks, it's enough to make me unable to feel proud of saving anyone from a predator. I wish people would not drink so much that they are unable to say yes or no or even understand what is happening to them. I will talk to my daughter about using appropriate care while doing drugs but I know that isn't enough to keep her safe against all dangers. There are many shitty evil people out there and they are capable of terrible deeds.
To be fair, I've never been falling-down-drunk and trying to leave my bar with someone I know, but I doubt that I would be stopped or the bartender would talk to the guy - I don't fully blame the bartenders, though. It is a college bar, it gets busy, and their priority is not on making sure people don't get wasted.
I'm having a hard time swallowing this. I'm curious as to whether all the people who shared this actually read it, or if it was shared because it has a provocative and agreeable title. I actually feel dumber for having read it. When parents, coaches, teachers or anyone else who cares about you gives you advice on how to keep yourself out of dangerous situations, you should listen to the advice and evaluate it as good or bad based on your knowledge and experience, as well as theirs. If I told my sister not to walk around the street late at night in my neighborhood, because robberies happen, would that be misogynistic, since it is robbers and not women who walk around late at night alone who are responsible for robberies? Rape is obviously among the most serious of crimes, and every rapist deserves to be punished to full extent of the law. Does that mean that certain situations don't exist in which conditions of rape aren't more prevalent? What world does this lady live in where boys aren't told not to rape? Rape can be a hard crime to prove if it's the word of one against another, but I remember being in middle school classes in 1993 where they were lecturing all of us about "no means no". I doubt it has gotten lighter since then. My guess is this lady thought of a cool title then tried to piecemeal a piece of shit article around it to sound profound. It isn't.
I understand where you are coming from. I am going to tell my own daughter to be safe, and I don't think that excuses any behavior. That said, there is a context, particularly online, where rape has become some sort of debatable issue, as if it is multifaceted. I believe the author is saying that telling girls to be safe validates that delusion. IMHO the author makes a valid point for the context in which it will be read. But if you are damn sure that rape is just a perpetrator and a victim, then telling someone how to be cautious can be just that. Unfortunately, this might be wishful thinking.There was an unspoken sense of community between us all. You will be safe when you’re here because you’re important to us, you’re worthy of protection.
"What world does this lady live in where boys aren't told not to rape? " http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steubenville_High_School_rape_c... http://www.latimes.com/nation/nationnow/la-na-nn-maryville-p... http://profootballtalk.nbcsports.com/2012/01/24/roethlisberg.../ The notion that rape victims are in any way at fault for not taking the advice of "parents, coaches, teachers, or anyone else who cares about [them]" is so utterly offensive and outrageous that I am disappointed in myself for responding to it.
I don't think you understand what I was saying. In no way do I think it's ok to blame a victim. I happen to also think that the world is dangerous and that we need to take common sense steps to protect ourselves. Rape is a unique crime, do it's hard to make an analogy with other types of crime, but I simply think that exploring ways to keep oneself out of danger is worthwhile.
Of course the world is dangerous. It is absolutely more dangerous because of attitudes of complacency towards bad behavior, especially rape. Whether it was your intention or not, your statements imply that a culturally acceptable danger is the ever-present threat of rape by men. Moreover, the onus of responsibility for a woman's safety is her own preventative measures. This type of rape culture, in which the threat of rape is accepted as pervasive and ubiquitous, is NOT OKAY. Plenty of women who have taken appropriate steps to protect themselves have been raped. More importantly, young people, male and female, should be entitled to do lots of things, including frequenting bars, without feeling emperilled of the pervasive threat of male rape. I'm sure you agree with this.
The problem is that there needs to be a balance between blaming the victims and holding males responsible for their actions. Of course we should all be responsible. Of course we should take preventative measures. But why is there such a disparity between girls being responsible and rapists being held responsible? Why are men not being told not to rape but there always seems to be an article on the frontpage with young girls taking the blame? A recent slew of articles and events blaming rapes on the drunk underage high school girls rather than the high school wannabe football stars was the starting point for this piece. Here's one. Here's another. Here's another. There are two sides: We need to be defensive to help curb or prevent crime and to protect ourselves. But we also need to not hurt others. You can't just teach defensive maneuvers and expect society's problems to go away. We need to teach both. We need to talk about both. For what it's worth, I just did a quick survey of the five 20-25 year old guys in my office right now and none were taught not to rape in school.in middle school classes in 1993 where they were lecturing all of us about "no means no"
Link one is advice on how to avoid potentially dangerous situations. Link two is a complicated case of he said, she said in which the victim has stopped cooperating, leading to the case not being pursued. And link three is a case in which the perpetrators were convicted of sexual assault. I'm not sure how that's blaming the victim. Obviously even a rape investigation can be devastating for the victim. I know I wouldn't want an embarrassing and traumatic event put in front of the public. I have no sense of how humiliating and painful that must be. However, I don't know where the idea is coming from that males (at least in this country) aren't taught that rape is wrong. Some don't seem to get it, but it is taught and taught again in school, on television, by any parents who are worth a damn. It's like saying the murder rate is so high, because no one has taught young thugs that murder is wrong. Some people are sociopaths who are going to commit crime. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
Wow. If that is what you see in that piece then this conversation isn't going anywhere. Fucking hell.Link one is advice on how to avoid potentially dangerous situations.
Like a victim blaming, slut shaming, piece of shit clickbait full of misinformation and bullshit disguised as "advice." I think this response pretty well captures my opinion on the piece and the author of said piece.
I think the root of our disagreement (and the wider disagreement fought among many people) is this: I see a crime problem where you see a women's rights problem. When viewed as a crime problem, it's easy to say that there are common sense steps that can be taken to lessen the odds of the crime taking place. However (and what I think I'm starting to see) is that when viewed as a human rights issue, then there is no room for negotiation, as life and liberty (both of which rape obviously infringes on in a dramatic way) are the two most fundamental human rights we have. It's essentially an idealist versus a pragmatist view, I think.
"I see a crime problem where you see a women's rights problem." Having had this discussion many, many times in my past, I can say with confidence that this is the single best summary I can think of. The advice is good and necessary but rejected because it is viewed as anti-women's-rights. And were we not discussing crime (something which, in itself, is about the breakdown of the social construct of rights), there might be a point to the protest on behalf of feminism, but as it stands now... there just isn't. The outrage is understandable but dangerous, especially when it allows one to eschew due caution on principle.
That it's kind of obvious you don't rape the chick in the other cubicle because she smiled politely at you... Then again there is this - They can drink and rape their way around according to that quote. It's articles like this that make me hate to be a dude, because that means I'm automatically a rapist, even if I'm not. So... Outrage is the order of this post. (Sorry if ramble) They don’t have to not rape. They can drink—and rape—because the girls have already been warned.
Because the problem isn't walking around late at night in dark allies where shadowy men crawl out and rape you, the problem is that 80% of rapes are caused by something the victim knows intimately. The problem is that this is not the perception because how society shows rapists as shadowy men. The problem is that if a girl is raped while drunk it becomes her fault, but if a man is drunk and rapes someone it becomes an excuse. The problem is that our society focuses on violent rape and ignores the coercion rape, the shaming rape, and pretends that if she didn't fight violently, or didn't know she was being raped, that she wasn't. The problem is that women still have to be told to not go our late and should limit their social lives because there's a possibility of rape. That's addressing the effect, not the cause. If women stopped wearing shorts and being out at 2 AM, do you know what would happen to the rape statistics? They'd be the same.
It's an analogy, not an argument I'm making. Please point to one article, or media source, or anything at all where people are on record as saying that drunkenness is an excuse for rape. There is value in determining where crime happens, and then telling potential victims of that crime how to best avoid it. Telling girls not to get fall down drunk at parties, because there are a lot of perverts in the world does not let perverts off the hook. It merely takes away a degree of freedom in the complex system. I don't know how you could possibly read my above comment and think that I was suggesting that rapes most commonly happen by strangers at night.
Is diminished responsibility close enough to excuse? http://www.doughtystreet.co.uk/documents/publications/Joe_St... So if a woman has been drinking she's held to be more responsible for the rape than if she were sober and if a man has been drinking he is less responsible for the rape than if he were sober. Furthermore it has a recorded effect on mock juries. Is drunkenness an excuse for rape? It does change the burden of responsibility greatly and affects culpability.Academic studies have shown that if the female complainant is portrayed as drunk, she is perceived as less credible and the defendant is seen as less likely to be criminally culpable
compared with a sober victim (Stormo et al., 1997; Wenger and Bornstein, 2006)
Stormo KJ, Lang AR, Stritze WGK. (1997) Attributions about acquaintance rape—the role of alcohol and individual differences. J Appl Soc Psychol 27:279–305.
Wenger AA, Bornstein BH. (2006) The effects of victim substance use and relationship closeness on mock jurors judgments in an acquaintance rape case. Sex Roles 54:547–55.
In mock jury trials [...] some tended to believe that so long as a person was conscious they were capable of expressing resistance to unwanted sexual contact and that a non-consenting person would struggle even when intoxicated (see Finch and Munro 2005).
However, inebriated females were assigned more responsibility when they consumed alcohol than sober females. In addition, sober males were assigned more responsibility for the rape than inebriated males.
https://www.iusb.edu/ugr-journal/static/2000/pdf/fogle.pdf
I... that's a confusing question, because if you DID accept the premise of responsibility not being a zero-sum game, I'm not sure how you'd see anything about the other three points that required address. Those data points only work to provide the conclusion you've come to -- "criminal culpability being lessened" -- in a Responsibility-As-Zero-Sum system; otherwise, they do not equate to that understanding of what transpired. However, I'm going to attempt to guess what you want addressed, though, and at least try to say something worthwhile about it. Here goes: As I do not see responsibility as a zero-sum game, then I do not see any of the examples you posted as instances where the perpetrator automatically and inevitably becomes less responsible for the situation as the victim becomes more. Rather, I think the examples you posted show systems in which each person involved in the crime had their own individual levels of responsibility determined separately, with the rulings and consequences following from that understanding making sense in that context. In more detail: - Under your understanding of responsibility, there is a set amount of blame -- 100% -- and it can only shift from one person to another. Assuming only two people (rapist and victim) are involved, then if we say that the victim is at least 10% responsible for the occurrence of the event due to poor choices like inebriation and such, then the rapist's percentage of responsibility automatically gets reduced to only 90%... even if the victim were completely unconscious and the rapist drop-dead sober. Your understanding of blame is black-and-white thinking; an "or" clause: EITHER the rapist is 100% guilty and the victim perfectly innocent no matter what she might have done up to that point, OR the victim is partly to blame and the perpetrator is at least partially innocent. This line of thinking is often taken by newer-wave feminists and social justice warriors, and in the context of principle actually serves well, despite being pragmatically broken. - Under my understanding of responsibility - the non-zero variety - there is not a set amount of blame, and every participant -- even bystanders and society itself -- can have a varying degree of it. Further, those combined degrees do not have to equal 100% (in total OR per-participant). Under this paradigm, the perpetrator could be determined to be 100% responsible for the rape -- undoubtably, definitely at fault, no questions asked -- AND the victim could be determined to have %20 of a hand in her own demise (again, given previously discussed factors). AND the people who watched or knew what was happening and could have stopped it but didn't have some degree of responsibility, AND some societal structures such as sports culture and/or the collegiate greek system could have a few percentage points... and, and and. This type of thinking, I think, serves to paint a more faithful, in-color picture of reality, social structure, and rape... and I find is often taken up by judges, well-selected juries, pragmatists, and people who view the issue as a criminal one, despite being broken and even considered insulting in the context of principle and social justice. I think the outcomes of the points you raised make far more sense, and are even logical and understandable on a human level, when viewed through the lens of a non-zero-sum system of responsibility. Of COURSE there is a difference in opinion and action taken when something like blinding inebriation is involved; I just disagree that it means what you think it does. Is that what you wanted me to address, or did I miss what you wanted entirely?
Honestly my paragraph at the end was merely designed to sum up the link above rather than act as a conclusion, I don't _think_ it added anything that would call it an argument. What I was hoping you'd go into was to do with the first three quote portions by themselves where I haven't put any analysis. Which is slightly too much to infer from what I said, so I apologise and I'll put up some extra here. To issue in short is that responsibility isn't the only thing up for grabs; there's a lot of other factors considered by the other quotes that are pretty straight forward and mostly that's culpability. Responsibility takes place after it's been established there was a crime taking place and to say the victim was partially responsible is to lessen the defendant's sentence. I figured that I could give up the responsibility without losing any force against b_b's claim that there isn't anyone who thinks drunkenness is an excuse in some degree for rape. I'm too happy to give up points like that when I think it can still be won because zero-sum games etc are usually long arguments over semantics that I don't care for. You've brought it up though and given some thought to it so I will tackle that by itself because otherwise it's a bit rude to go "I didn't explain myself very well and so let's dismiss your argument in favour of what I hoped you inferred." Mostly the other cases discuss whether a crime took place. In the first case the female witness is described as drunk and is less credible as a witness. This case is not discussing responsibility - it does not suggest because she has been drinking she was increasingly her likelihood of being raped - it is describing how it is less believable she was raped because she was drinking. This is claiming that the act didn't actually take place rather than a lessening of responsibility, currently UK law has no events that lessen punishment for rape, only a rather long list of things that can increase it. To claim that a rape did not take place because of the witness being drunk is to excuse it happening entirely. The second one only notes that this is not merely individuals who find this result but mock juries. This raises practical concerns about rape trials rather than just societal concerns about how we view rape and drinking. That's a stretch for someone to read into what I said, so it's best off to read this as being introduced now. The third is Finch/Munro. No one worth listening to is going to claim the girl was more responsible for the rape if she did not struggle, their claim will be that the act was consensual because someone who is not consenting ought to struggle. I think the issue with that is pretty blinding but again it is excusing that a crime took place because of the actions of the victim under the influence of alcohol. So to discuss zero sum games. Partially innocent is an interesting term. I was under the impression what usually happened under cases of limited responsibility was that they were still pronounced guilty and then their sentencing was adjusted to consider their diminished responsibility for the action. Murder and manslaughter is the common example where if you are not of sound mind, acted with loss of control or even in a suicide pact you are deemed to have diminished responsibility but are still guilty. Innocent and guilty are pretty binary. So in your case if the victim made bad choices she lessens the responsibility of the man acting upon her. I don't think anything I've said has linked the two - I think it's more in tune with your second category at any rate. Case A: A woman drinking, she is more responsible for the rape.
Case B: A man drinking, he is less responsible for the rape. Where's the link? I think you might have imputed slightly more on to me than was actually there. Responsibility as zero sum is kinda interesting though. So if I used the example of two people pushing a car off a cliff - in case A only person A pushes the car and in case B both person A and person B push the car. In case A person A is 100% responsible and person B 0% responsible, but in case B you could see it as they are both 50% responsible for the act or they are both 100% responsible for the act as either of them acting would have been sufficient for the event?So if a woman has been drinking she's held to be more responsible for the rape than if she were sober and if a man has been drinking he is less responsible for the rape than if he were sober
Firstly: an honest "thank you" to you, for actually having a discussion instead of a flame fest. There is actual thought here, and an interest in engaging in a hard discussion in a level-headed way, and I'm so appreciative for that, that I'd put you on my Christmas list if I knew who you were. Sincerely, I thank you. On to the matter at hand. "To issue in short is that responsibility isn't the only thing up for grabs; there's a lot of other factors considered by the other quotes that are pretty straight forward and mostly that's culpability." Of interest, to me, is the fact that when one Google's the definition of "culpability", the very first word of the very first definition of the very first result is "responsibility". Don't take my word for it: https://www.google.com/search?q=culpability&oq=culpabili... I bring this up because you mentioned semantic land-mines, and I argue that this is one such thing. Responsibility, culpability, blame: really, we're dancing around synonyms at this point, and it plays into the hands of my zero-sum thing almost too conveniently. To continue (into the foray of how I believe you are seeing the game as zero-sum -- if we can actually comfortably define this as a "game" behind the shielded apathy of our clickey typing aids): you ask where the link is, and then, in the next sentence, show me the link directly: "Case A: A woman drinking, she is more responsible for the rape. Case B: A man drinking, he is less responsible for the rape. /n/n Where's the link?" The link is right there, in the words "more" and "less". In a non-zero-sum game, neither party gets to BE "more" or "less" responsible, because that implies a static relationship: that the MORE responsible one is, the LESS responsible another is! That implies, if not outright states, the shifting of blame as I described it in case 1 above, instead of unlimited parties sharing an inexhaustible pool of responsibility (or culpability, or blame, or whatever word is sufficient). Were it truly a conversation in a non-zero-sum system, it would be completely rephrased, because it would HAVE to be. Because in a non-zero-sum game, it simply does not make logical, mathematical sense to use words like "more" and "less". It would be something like "this man is completely responsible for the crime, yet it cannot also be said that the victim did not have a hand in her own undoing". AND vs. OR. The difference might seem subtle, and an issue of hair-splitting... at least, on the surface. But really, it changes the entire thing. It permeates even into your final conjecture: "In case A person A is 100% responsible and person B 0% responsible, but in case B you could see it as they are both 50% responsible for the act or they are both 100% responsible for the act as either of them acting would have been sufficient for the event?" Well, that depends mightily on a number of things, but what's worrying is that according to your example, there still seems to be a finite amount of responsibility/culpability/blame to go around. At worst, there is 100% blame that each person could have -- 200% total. At best, there is only 100% shared among each participant. Either way, there is a set amount, and it is exactly this that I protest against as a false understanding of the premise. To my mind, person A -- the "pusher" in each case -- would likely be assigned 100%. Person B? Unless he actively exerted some effort to put an end to the catastrophe, they would carry SOME blame, even and especially if he did nothing. Could have stopped it, but didn't? Yeah, there is culpability there. Helped a little? More culpability. But at the risk of turning this into a novella: I see what tree you're sniffing at the base of, and would like to bark up it for a hot minute. It's about empathy. Responsibility is one thing, but empathy is the added factor in the discussion. I say "added" because it adds to the conversation a much-needed dimension that is often ignored. If one commits a crime that others can empathize with -- especially if the others are jury members or a judge -- the severity of the crime gets reduced and/or the sentence gets lightened. Note, that in this case, the crime still exists as such, and no one questions whether or not the perp is responsible for committing it; its just that if you can get a jury or judge to empathize with the reasons it was committed, the results of the trial -- and the severity of the sentence -- change. "Stealing bread to feed your family because you seemed to have no other choice" is the most facile example I can think of. Is stealing wrong? Yes. Is the person who stole a criminal? Yes. No one doubts either thing. Yet, given the circumstances, I doubt you'd find a judge or jury who'd really bring down the full force and backing of the law to punish such a thing. AND vs. OR. Guilty? Yes. Criminal act? Yes. AND, were there reasons some of us could relate to? If the answer is "yes," things go down differently. Does this facile and woefully inadequate analogy apply? To rape?? I think the answer is -- truly -- "sometimes". Can she hold her liquor to the point where she's about to fall down but doesn't slur her words? Does she, under those conditions, flirt and make out with people she normally wouldn't (were she of sober mind and body)? Was she, during that night, wearing unusually revealing clothing and hitting on people she would not were she sober? Did her "no" -- if she was even capable of uttering one, at that point -- come off as a demure come-on, after which she almost enthusiastically went along with the act? And him: was he drunk and horny enough to not see what might be exceptionally subtle cues of protest, followed by compliance that would be perceived as "willing" by even sober men? These paragraphs are, by no means, intended to paint every -- or even a majority -- of rapes in a way that would suggest that most, if not all, rapes are really just rebranded regret. Instead, they are intended to outline the complexity -- the color version, as opposed to black-and-white version -- of the entire situation, in a way that is more true to how things might have gone down; and how I know a vast amount of these things go down, and how an overwhelming amount of such situations are eventually perceived and understood by both the participants and the people attempting to decide the fate of all involved. It's a sticky situation, even before you bring into play the obvious hypocrisy involved regarding drunk people in the USA -- that being, how everyone is conditioned to assume that drunkards are utterly and ultimately responsible for every horrible act they perpetrate, even upon themselves, UNLESS we're talking about rape and consent, at which point everything that ever happens is someone else's bad. The TL;DR is, I guess, that this topic is so much more complicated than a zero-sum view of responsibility can present that I am held breathless and in awe -- in an unmistakably negative way -- at the number of people who view it that way. It simply does not do. Which is why I find myself, a bleeding-heart liberal and proud progressive, with a wife who is a former sex worker and sex educator, at odds with the principles of the current social justice movements in place by the unanimously younger crowd I interface with these days.
For it to be zero-sum it requires a shift in responsibility from someone onto someone else. The cases are independent of one another and do not happen simultaneously or co-happen. They are the two very different results of what people studied think. Case A: The woman drinks more.
She is held to be more responsible for being raped than a sober woman would. The man is unaffected in terms of responsibility. Case B: The man drinks more.
He is held to be less responsible for the act than a sober man would. The woman is unaffected in terms of responsibility. Should it be a zero-sum game, there needs to be a link from the man's total responsibility to the woman's total responsibility. There is not. Case Z: The woman is drunk.
The woman is held to be more responsible, ergo the man is less responsible. Case Z would be a zero-sum example. The others are not. Responsibility is pretty damn separate to criminal culpability if only in matters of discreteness - responsibility can be in terms of degree but you are not partially culpable in the eyes of the law, you are guilty or not guilty. We are not merely dancing around synonyms if there is a clear difference in properties like that. My 'final conjecture' is a complaint of how ridiculous the number game works out to.
Ah, I see. I was confused, and I apologize: I did think cases A and B were the same case, that's my mistake. Case Z would be what I've been talking about (more like railing against). That said, I see now why A and B are interesting to you. If B is as you present it, then I disagree with the groupthink there, as in every other criminal avenue we view inebriated people as responsible for the horrible acts they commit under the influence. In fact, we often ratchet the severity up if one does something horrible in an altered state, and criminalize otherwise legal acts if they attempt to be done drunk (like driving). That should be the case in B, and that it isn't displays a double-standard regarding responsibility and inebriation that I can only describe as "breathtaking". On the other hand, I find it is common to have less sympathy for inebriated people who hurt themselves or otherwise get themselves into bad situations then would normally be felt if those people were sober. I often view this as reasonable, and share the sentiment, so I can't say that I disagree with A at all. I disagree that it is somehow sexist to point out that she had a hand in her own undoing, or to suggest that the situation may well not have come to pass were she sober. On your last sentence, I think we've actually come to some sort of agreement, as my entire gripe against zero-sum responsibility is that it reduces things to a numbers game whereas percentages of responsibility don't make any real (or even mathematical) sense otherwise. I mean yeah, you can try to do it, but if you did you'd very realistically have situations wherein the sum total of all blame to go 'round could very well be something like 487%, and that's just a silly and useless way of looking at it.
I agree. What got me was this line: It seems like she's implying that rapists are a type of person. Perhaps there are certain people more prone to raping others, but it also seems like if one substituted the word "rapist" for something else, that line of reasoning makes little sense. Example: It's because the boys who happened to be around at the time were not murderers. No one is a murderer until they commit murder. Similarly, it is my understanding that no one is a rapist until they rape someone. If that comes off as flippant or overly reductive, please let me know why.It’s because the boys who happened to be around at the time were not rapists
Exactly. Tautological at best. The old Stanford prison experiment experiment proved that normal people can act in depraved ways given the right conditions. That said, there are obviously a lot of people in the world who seem more predisposed to depraved violence than others. Being aware (or more correctly, reminding potential victims) of the situations in which these people can commit acts of violence isn't wrong in itself. The fact that anyone could be offended by such advice is beyond me.
Yes, there have even been studies that show that when people are given even a little power, they begin to act differently toward others who are "lower" than their own position. After reading the piece, I'm inclined to say that the feeling of being infantilized when someone says, is more a product of being reminded of something the writer takes to be implicit. For example, I get a bit annoyed when my mother tells me to be careful when I'm doing something dangerous. I already know it's dangerous and chances are, I've already taken precautions and hearing her say it wouldn't help me out even if something did go wrong, though it does then enable her to say, "I told you so." I can only imagine what it would be like if people often took it upon themselves to remind me that every time I went out to a party, there was the possibility of rape. That said, I think this piece of writing needs some work.The fact that anyone could be offended by such advice is beyond me.
“Watch your liquor, ladies. Don’t drink so much, girls,”
A large portion of rapists are serial rapists.