A ton of you have accused me of making assumptions. Maybe you should have given me an inkling that there was an assumption to check.
As to what got me apparently muted on about half the site: A good bit of you are completely bereft in the ethical department, considering I was like one of three people in clandestino's thread who'd not cheated on someone or been the other person last I checked. I have, as a matter of fact, been cheated on, seen its fallout elsewhere, and firmly believe I am a better person than every one of you who couldn't keep your fucking pantalones on and thought with your genitalia. I didn't think it was relevant to bring up, considering that that doesn't change the fact that the OP was a complete fuckhead.
Yeah, I don't think I want to hang around a bunch of cheaters. I'm out. I tried.
Is this the straw that broke the camel's back? I suppose so. I don't really have to respond to this. Not because I've never cheated, as I've never been in a relationship long enough to encounter the issue, so I don't need to throw my hat in the ring in that department. But because you've already dismissed my response in your paragraph. I think, teamr, therein lies the issue. I don't mean to lecture you, but you're very dismissive. People have muted you because they don't appreciate the way you believe discourse should be handled. Beyond that, you feel no need to reflect on the way you approach situations. You barge in with harsh words, or unnecessary ones, then, when lashed against, you claim, "ah, well that's your own problem, and this is the internet, so what you say or feel doesn't matter." That's now how discussions work in real life, do they? I mean if they did, they'd be pretty awkward. Think about it. Here, you say you've been cheated on, you say you've seen its fallout...why did you not bring any of those points up in that thread? Instead, you called the OP a fuckhead. That's the equivalent of a 13 year old's whining. I know you're an intelligent person - you've made sure other people know that many times in other threads - but the way you approach conversations does not reflect that intelligence. I know a few other people that are like you, teamr. This is a genuine suggestion, not one that should be taken with malice: Rethink the way you approach discussions. Maybe even reflect on how you feel about yourself, in relation to how you feel about others. I think things'd be much more relaxing and productive for you. I would not say that I'm happy to see you go, but with the way you interact with others on Hubski, I can't say your attitude will be missed, either. Just being honest there. I'm sure the community would be glad to welcome you back, if the latter changes, and you choose to return. God speed.
It's unfortunate that your thoughtful words may be wasted, eightbitsamurai. I had the same feeling and saw this coming, with no less pomp, either. I honestly hope they aren't like this in their day-to-day interactions, and I've been around it enough to kind of brush it off, but there's always a breaking point whenever someone has some absolutist worldviews. Honestly gonna take this as a point of reflection and try and be as constructive as I can in my interactions, I enjoy this community very much but it can be difficult at times to discern your value, since so much of it is weighed by interactions alone, and sometimes you just don't get that. Maybe she never really got appropriate feedback earlier on. Or maybe she's just in for a hard life.I know a few other people that are like you, teamr.
Hit the nail on the head with this comment. Very, very well said. Thanks for taking the time to write this 8bit, even if it falls on deaf ears.
Wait, wasn't the point of every single post and comment you made to say that you're better than us?...and firmly believe I am a better person than every one of you...