Are there any other lies those who have moved past their 20s can share?
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First of all the "lies" are vapid generalizations of the sort that you'd find in a useless self-help book. Second, if "twentysomethings" think these things, then everyone does. They're common insecurities/failures of human nature. Third, ideas like "You are extremely talented at something. We just need to start pulling off the layers to get a glimpse of what that something is." aren't remotely true for everyone, nor is that at all helpful advice if you actually think about it. EDIT: want some real advice? Travel. Apply creativity to your life. Don't go into debt. Expect that you will have to work, and work hard. Don't stop learning when you leave college. Treat every day as a gift. Hell, that link is the best advice I've read in years, because it isn't silly, it isn't general, it's targeted and specific and involves small everyday change.
That social media matters. So many of my 20-something peers spend most of their off hours staring at a screen- be it a handheld or otherwise- and spend hundreds of dollars on The Next Big Thing. 'Likes' and retweets may get you a micro-second in the spotlight but they don't amount to anything material.
I thought those things. Maybe not all of them but many of them.
4 out of 5 of them start with "I". That's part of the issue right there. I'm a big believer that at some point in your early 20s you need to do something focused somewhere OTHER than yourself, for at least 6 months, and preferably a year or more. Peace Corps, Americorps, missionary work, military... do SOMETHING to reset your frame of reference, outside of yourself. I could go on and on and sound more like a grumpy old man, but it would probably only annoy.
There's a lot of misinformation which confuses many people my age to believe that the self is the most important thing. That we are to look out for only ourselves, and then others. If we can afford it.
The big lie (and this applies to teenagers as well as those in their 20s) is that it matters where you go to school. It doesn't. What matters is what you take away from your experiences (including school), how well you perform what you set out to perform, and how you interact with people in the world. (Well, all that plus luck, which is sometimes difficult to come by.)
Well, this is interesting.
I've been feeling that where I chose to go to school was the wrong decision. Tuition is 4x more than if I were to have gone in state, there is a lack of beautiful scenery that abounds at places like University of Colorado - Boulder, and I feel as if I haven't made the deepest of connections. But more and more recently I've been discovering the truth of what you're saying. Despite the discontent, I like the person I am and am still developing into. Had I gone to another institution, the outcome may have been vastly different. Like Pumba once said, "you've gotta put the past behind ya."
What's done is done. It's nice to know that there's no foundation for being upset about the decision I made.
These are all addressed to some degree in the link, but here's my take: 1. I should be married Take your time. Don't rush this one, ever. If you're 40 and unmarried, so be it. Don't marry to be married. Horrible decision 2. I should know what I want to do I am in my mid-30's and I still change my mind about what I want to do, often. 3. I should settle down worst advice ever. Move around, see the world and accrue experience via travel. Settle down when you think it's time, not when others think so 4. I should spend all my money This is a big NOOOOOOOO. Save, save, save. Spend some money and enjoy being young, but don't be lavish. Save money in an IRA or some other retirement vehicle. This is the most important thing you can do for yourself. Unless you're already wealthy
I received some advice the other day and I think it applies to most of all of what you're saying: Enjoying short-term pleasures at the expense of long-term dreams is just about as silly as pursuing long-term dreams at the expense of short-term pleasures.