Such a good read. Such a terrible story.
randomuser and I have been watching that terrible guilty-pleasure MTV show, Catfish as background noise the past couple days. One of the moms on the show was pretty much the most winningest mom ever. The episode revolved around a girl who met a dude online, fell in "love", wanted to meet up with him, turns out the "he" was a transgender using fake pics, all the usual. The girl was totally fine with it, besides the lying part, and she called her mother to explain.
Keep in mind, the phone conversation was like, "Hey mom, so that dude I met online Alyx is actually named Dani and is trans and started hormone therapy like..a week ago." The only thing the mom said was, "Are you okay with it? What do you think about this whole situation". When her daughter answered, "it's fine...we'll have to get through the lies and stuff but I'm fine with it", the mom said, "Well if you are okay with it then so am I."
I don't know. Support your kids. Let them make mistakes. Be there when they fall down. And you know....mostly try not to pressure them so much that they murder you in the end.
This is so much more positive than the takeaway I had reading this article: geez, I'm definitely never having kids. This was a great read.Support your kids. Let them make mistakes.
Ha! Having kids (in the far future) is something that I look forward to, but it definitely terrifies me. Especially knowing the shit that I got into as a teen and articles like this one, or the kids drowning, or accidentally leaving your kid in the car, or whatever. It's going to be like, "Awesome, I made a life and brought into this world!!! :D :D :D" .... "Oh shit. I brought a life into this world. :O" I actively try to take away positive things from any / every experience in life, even the negative or downright inflammatory. Sometimes it is a bit of a stretch. Sometimes it gets ridiculous. But I feel you can learn and add anything to your pile of knowledge—even if it's simply what not to do.
I think most parenting displays these days kind of show more what not to do, than positive influences. Its almost like everyone forgot how to raise decent people. With the attachment parenting or whatever, where you let you kid decide everything for themselves. I don't now who thought this was a good idea. Kids are fucking terrible people, they need someone to shape them into decent, acceptable adults. If they don't, they just turn into selfish, terrible adults.