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byonic  ·  3269 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 6, 2016

At some point today the clock will roll over and it will mark my first year on Hubski.

I even remember exactly where I was and what I was doing when I discovered Hubski. I was with my parents in Chicago visiting my brother (who has since set sail) while he was wrapping up his Navy education. I was screwing around on snapchat exchanging goofy pictures with my best friend / roommate / person I was developing uncomfortable feelings for (now none of those things) while sitting on a bench in a store, waiting for my mom to wrap up. In between pictures I'd browse reddit, where at the time everything seemed to be falling apart. On a list of 'reddit alternatives' was Hubski, a place I now know to be so much more than that.

It's so crazy to me to think about who I was a year ago.

In that time I've:

- Moved twice

- Put a pause on college to work full time

- Dropped the mask I put on in college; I'm way more comfortable with who I am now

- Acknowledged (some of) my faults - and the redeeming parts of myself

- Switched to a different job with a boss I'm actually friends with

- Shifted politically

- Developed spiritually

- Rekindled relationships with old friends & brought new ones into the fold

- Put an end other relationships I identified as unhealthy for me

I've been feeling like I've been growing stagnant, but looking back I've actually changed a ton in the past year. Must be all about perception. I wonder who I'll be a year from now.





user-inactivated  ·  3268 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    - Dropped the mask I put on in college; I'm way more comfortable with who I am now

I wanted to say that this is the most important one when I saw it, but you've been through a lot of positive change in that year, and none of it is any less important than another.

Have another good year, my friend. Be well.

_refugee_  ·  3268 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I love to use fixed, certain dates like anniversaries (and some holidays - for some reason, I can almost always tell you where I have been on the 4th of July every year, for instance) to look back over the past year or years and compare who I was then to who I am now.

It reassures me that for the most part, who I was is radically different. I encourage such lookbacks. I think they lend perspective. They can also help you ask, "How do I still want/need/desire to change? How haven't I, that I now will choose to?"

byonic  ·  3268 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's something I think I should do more often. This reflection was really good for me to do, I found it reassuring that I'm at least moving in the right direction.